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Day Four: Psalm 91

Day Three

"You have to print a retraction and take that Calico post off your blog, Mom."

"No, John. It stays."

"Why? It just shows how wrong you were."

"Yes, sweetie, it does but to delete that post would rob God of the credit that is due to him."

Charlie stood just a step away from Heaven's gates while we called him the Calico Boy.

For weeks, the abcess grew, deep withing the recesses of Charlie's neck tissue; swelling invisible to human sight or probing fingers. Not once a fever, no sign of illness revealed until he began to sleep for long hours only two days before we brought him to the doctors.

"The abcess was huge. It extended from just under his ear, down to his voice box and went behind his esophogus." The surgeon measured of span of one and three and four inches with his forefinger and thumb as he described the area to me. "He's lucky still to be here."

The surgeon left the room Wednesday night and I sobbed into the phone to Stuart. He almost DIED! The gravity of Charlie's illness finally dawning on me. The battle for taking my every thought captive begun.

I shouldn't have been so impatient with his whining. We should have taken him in sooner. What if the pediatrician hadn't...? What if the abcess burst? What if...?

The funny thing is from the time we left the house on Monday, through the surgery on Tuesday and recovery on Wednesday, we had been blanketed with an impenetrable peace and now here I was trying to peel off the feather comforter by reliving the events, adding in imaginary senarios, magnifying the ways I had failed Charlie.

My iron sister-in-law came to the rescue with Psalm 91 and corraled my wayward thinking.

"I didn't know. How could I not know?"

"You didn't need to know, because God commanded his angels concerning Charlie. They were guarding Charlie in ALL ways. They were lifting him up before God's throne the WHOLE time! Your family acknowledges God, you called up Him and He is DELIGHTED to fulfill his promises to you because he is FAITHFUL."

Charlie's fight has strengthened the faith muscles of our entire family. We are rejoicing in the difficulties of this long week because they prove we worship a a mighty God.

Calico Boy stays to bear witness. It is a powerful contrast of our frail limits as parents and our Father's all knowing, glorious, saving power.

Quick Update: Charlie went into the hospital on Monday, January 6th with a bronchial cyst caused by a staff infection. The good news is that the infection is not resistant to antibiotics. The bad news is that the damage caused by the infection was so extensive that he will have to remain in the hospital until sometime next week on i.v. antibiotics. I am guessing he will get to come home sometime between Monday and Wednesday. He has a five inch drain in his neck that needs to be removed gradually.

If you are inclined to pray, please pray specifically for Charlie's peace of mind. He is very anxious about blood work and bandage changing. Also pray that the four older children continue to hold up. We have been asking them to carry a lot of responsibility and they have risen admirably to the occasion but they are beginning to miss their normal routine.

Day Five: Speaker Phone Prayers


Kate, I am so glad he is alright and I will be praying for him and the rest of you. I only know you via your blog, but from what I see you are an amazing mother who obviously loves her children and her Lord dearly. Give your 'what-ifs' to God. He wants them.
Mama JJ said…
Wow. I was getting quite worried, not hearing back from you on this site. Last night I told Mr. H that we needed to call you today if we still didn't hear anything...

I'm glad things are on the upswing, but still, I'm a bit shaken by the gravity of the whole situation. Makes a body want to dash to the ER anytime a child has a little ache or pain.

I have been praying for you guys, but thank you for listing specific ways that I can lift you up.

Wow! It's always amazing to me how a Staph infection can do so much damage, and how it can sneak up on you. I am so glad that although Charlie has been through so much and still has some recovery to go, that your family has been glorifying God through the entire ordeal. He is faithful, amen?

mommasmurf said…
Thank you so much for giving us this insight. Amazing. God is good. And thanks for letting us know how we can pray.
Heather C said…
(((((((((((Kate))))))))))))) I was so glad to come and read this update! You all have been in my thoughts and prayers constantly! Love you! Praying you through the end of this thing... and praising the Lord for His sovereign care.
ocean mommy said…
You all have not left our hearts, minds or prayers this week...I'm so thankful our God is our front and rear guard...He was for that precious little one! What a story he has to share!

I'm praying today that each member of your family will have the strength and endurance they need for today.

Hugs and love,
Sara Carmichael said…
I read every post of this gripping story. Praise the Lord Charlie is doing well. Praise the Lord for His protection and His faithfulness. Praise the Lord for your iron sister-in-law to encourage you in your lowest point. How could you have known with really no signs except for his own whining? It's been quite an eye-opener for me; I know I need to listen to my little ones and their whinings more closely than I do. Praise the Lord. Praise the Lord. He is good.
Amy said…
You all are much in my prayers! I'm so thankful for the way God has worked on your whole family's behalf...and I see/read GOOD FRUIT in the lives of your other precious children!!! You all are so loved!
ValleyGirl said…
I will definitely keep praying.

"Charlie stood just a step away from Heaven's gates while we called him the Calico Boy." ~ this blows me away. Such a vivid picture of how finite and un-knowing we humans are in contrast to an all-knowing, all-powerful God.

I'm so relieved to hear he'll be alright and that he's expected to come home in a few days.

Your attitude of humility and joy through this experience are a testament to your faith and an incredible inspiration.
Kim said…
Dear Kate,

I'm so glad you posted. We were getting worried over here and I was looking up the time difference so we could give you a call. Please give Charlie a big hug from all of us and know that your whole family is in our thoughts. It's good to know the hospital staff is treating Charlie well.


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